Daughters are precious. If you have one, you will know the ups and downs you must ride with them as they grow. As parents of girls, we know the words we speak to our daughters can have a lasting impact on their self-esteem, confidence, and overall well being.
It's important to choose our words carefully and ensure that they are supportive, encouraging, and uplifting. We believe the following 6 statements every daughter needs to hear from her mum not only strengthen the relationship with our daughters, they also make our girls feel seen and known.
Firstly, it's essential to tell our daughters that we love them. This simple phrase builds their self-esteem and can help them feel valued and appreciated. We know that saying these words regularly makes a big difference, although we don’t always see how.
Second, it's important we encourage our daughters to be themselves. Too often, young girls feel pressure to conform to societal expectations and norms. By encouraging our daughters to be themselves, we are sending a message that they are unique and valuable, just the way they are.
Third, we tell our daughters that they are smart and capable. Young girls are often bombarded with messages that they are not as intelligent or capable as their male peers. By telling our daughters they are smart, we are empowering them to believe in themselves and to pursue their passions and interests with confidence.
Young girls are often exposed to unrealistic beauty standards that can be damaging to their self-esteem. We help to build their confidence and to counteract harmful messages when we tell our daughters that they are beautiful.
We make sure we do this not only when they are dressed up and wearing makeup but also at times when they don’t feel attractive like first thing in the morning or on days when they are just relaxing at home.
Fifth, it's essential we tell our daughters that they can do anything they set their minds on. Girls often face obstacles and challenges. We believe with encouragement and support, they can overcome these obstacles and reach their full potential.
To us, there is nothing more beautiful than a girl who is empowered to pursue her dreams and to reach for the stars.
Finally, we tell our daughters that they are not alone. Feeling isolated and alone, can cause young girls to look for a connection with those who may not be a good influence. Wanting a sense of belonging can motivate them to attach to unsafe people. We make it a habit to remind our daughters that we are always here for them and that we like being around them.
Yes, the words we speak to our daughters have a profound impact on who they become. And so, mama bear, do not be discouraged if communicating to your daughter is difficult at times.
Do not be upset if it seems like she does not care for your encouragement. Do not be angered by her lack of compassion towards you.
Forgive yourself for any words you have said that you know were discouraging. Tell her you are sorry and will try harder to use words that do not hurt.
And remember, by telling her that you love her, encouraging her to be herself, telling her that she is smart and capable, speaking the words ‘you are beautiful’, letting her know that she can do anything she sets her mind to, and telling her that she is not alone, you can help her to feel valued, appreciated, and empowered.