Love a little deeper, reach a little further.
My most favourite part about the Christmas season is the act of gift giving.
No other holiday focusses so much on championing generosity, thoughtfulness and care.
Surely bestowing gifts is an opportunity rather than an obligation.
And so I’ve been thinking of practical ways I can grab onto that opportunity; ways I can love a little deeper and reach a little further.
I did it.
I bought myself a gift, wrapped it and put it under the Christmas tree.
At first my children thought I was silly. I had to explain to them that I was being kind to myself.
Miss 11 got it.
Mr 9 said, ‘That’s a good idea.’
Mr 7 laughed, rubbed my arm and then asked if we could have chips for dinner.
I did it because I needed to acknowledge the strength I had used, the storm I had ridden.
I did it to show myself love and respect.
I think I’ll make a habit of it, along with other small acts of self-kindness, you know, buy the shoes, eat the cake, run the bath, pour the wine, cook myself a healthy breakfast, walk the block.
She who is happy loves well.
In years gone by I was one of those women who sometimes sacrificed more than I should.
I gave to the point of self-depletion. I thought I was loving well, yet in putting myself last I had become empty, resentful of my season and I undervalued good things in my life.
That ain’t living sister!
So make a plan to buy yourself that gift, acknowledge all you give, what you’ve conquered this year and celebrate you.
Small things can make a big impact.
Why not pour your love into a hand written Christmas Card. Steer clear of the obvious ‘Merry Christmas,’ message which is easy to throw away. Write something heart-felt, thoughtful, personal, funny and uplifting.
Invite someone for wine and cheese and LISTEN.
Pop a cute pair of earrings inside a card and put in the letterbox to surprise a friend.
Bake for your neighbours, busy families or elderly who live alone.
Pray fervently for others.
Give your full attention to those in the room, look up and strike up a salty conversation.
Ask how you can help.
Give away all good quality second hand toys, books and cloths.
You get it – it’s about being present, aware and open hearted.
This year I have heard numerous stories of devastation and heartache.
That cheery family celebration we see in Coles and Woolies commercials is far from a reality.
Many are blue and dreading Christmas day.
How can you help?
Hold a hand.
Hug a heart.
Open your home.
Voice call on Christmas day.
Acknowledge the loss.
Allow them to share memories.
Do something practical to honour their lost loved one, like make a donation to a charity in their name or hang a special ornament on your tree.
We’re all in this together so pull close this Christmas and know that love looks good on you.
Words by Lauren Lott
Have a beautiful Christmas! Take care of yourself lovely xoxo